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Emuna Thinking ~ Part I

June 1, 2015
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Today’s 14th of Sivan is the yahrtzeit of the Nefesh HaChaim, R’ Chaim m’Volozhin ztk’l. As a primary disciple of the Vilna HaGaon ztk’l he emphasized the power of Torah study and fulfillment of mitzvot to bring a Jew close to Hashem. The central importance of Torah study reached its heights in the yeshiva, which became a model for all Lithuanian Yeshivot. May his merit serve as a holy advocate for Klal Yisrael, Amen.

Every day I get emails from women around the world addressing the same idea – I have emuna in my mind, but missing it in my heart. Emuna of the mind a.k.a. intellectual emuna is not strong enough to affect our emotions. In order for emuna to touch our emotions, a.k.a. sensory emuna, it is vital to get in touch with our thoughts which give birth to our emotions. What other benefit does uplifting our thoughts have aside from feeling better about our circumstances?

Thoughts affect our destiny. This may sound extreme however Torah teaches that positive thinking, holy speech and good deeds can change our path. Hashem brings forth all events. Yet it is within the power of every Jew who lives a life of emuna, and who truly believes that Hashem can bring about a change in their situation to merit Heavenly compassion and additional assistance.

When we believe with all of our hearts that Hashem loves us and wants only for our good this wipes away the bitter view and enables us to readily see the good. Emuna deepens our vision and elevates our eyes to spiritually see the good. However it doesn’t stop there. On a more palpable level it actually produces change in the situation for the better. Such is the tremendous power of emuna. We will continue to expand on this teaching in the coming days.

Love and Emuna

May 28, 2015
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Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated for the refuah Sheleimah of Ubar ben Devorah, the fetus of a woman who is having some pregnancy issues and will be going through some critical testing in the next two weeks. May HaKadosh Baruch Hu shower fetus and Mom with a complete healing b’riut hanefesh v’b’riut haguf among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

Love is a positive emotion that moves and connects people.   However we live in an ‘I’ generation that encourages us to take care of ‘me’ over the ‘we’.   No wonder there is a total collapse of human interrelations, particularly in today’s marriage.

Our definition of love is mistakenly entwined into the idea of us experiencing pleasure.  I love ice cream meaning it brings me pleasure. However love is not the reception of pleasure from someone or something.  Love is actually quite the opposite; it is giving to the object of our love.  Love is filling another with what gives them pleasure.

The hidden beauty of love reveals itself when the recipient understands that he is actually giving pleasure back to the giver by receiving their love.  In other words, receiving should be for the sake of giving.  A deep meaningful relationship is when both husband and wife enter each other’s inner world and allow themselves to feel the other one’s needs as though they were their own.  This propels them to fulfill the others needs while they receive joy through their act of giving.

Undoubtedly this is a high level of consciousness, yet living this way enables the giver to always be filled with happiness independent of whether it is appreciated by the receiver.  To this vain, the giver becomes an instrument for fulfilling the loved one; this is true love.

According to the mystical teaching of the Torah, genuine love is an~

  • elated sensation
  • something eternal
  • ‘out of this world’

feeling one experiences while fulfilling another.  It is a state of inner harmony and the only path to self-discovery where one experiences the ability to go beyond their ‘small’ world.  A giver of love breaks all human boundaries and reaches the Heavenly realms.

One last secret.  The giver of love, particularly one who does not receive back in the form of complements, appreciation and validation, is directly nourished from the source of all pleasure and delight; Hashem Yitborach Himself.

Please share your comments and let me know if you are interested in me setting up a webinar delving into this and other emuna lessons that help build solid wholesome relationships.

Emuna and Marriage

May 27, 2015
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Today, 9 of Sivan is the yahrtzeit of Rabbi Yaakov Chaim Sofer (1870-1939), author of the 8-volume work of Jewish law, Kaf HaChaim. He was born in Baghdad and studied under great sages such as the Ben Ish Chai. In 1904, Rabbi Sofer embarked on a long and arduous journey to Israel, where he became one of the great kabbalists of the 20th century (Aish.com).  May he serve as a protective advocate for Klal Yisrael, Amen.

Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated for the refuah Sheleimah of Shmuel Zachariah ben Yona Esther who suffered a heart attack on Shabbos and is in ICU. May HaKadosh Baruch Hu shower him with a complete healing b’riut hanefesh v’b’riut haguf among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

Regularly injecting emuna into our marriage is vital for a wholesome and well-balanced relationship.  The Tanya HaKadosh teaches that man and woman under the chuppah return to be one soul.  Aside from this being a dreamy idea practically speaking this carries a tremendous emuna lesson; husbands and wives mirror each other.  Plain and simple this means that what we see in our spouse is a direct image of what lies within; sometimes so deep within that we are not even aware of it.

This may come across as a new concept to many however it is a fundamental Torah teaching. The two souls were actually one in Shamayim before coming down into this world and then split when born, only to once again reunite when married.  Each one holds something precious that the other lacks and through the avodah of refining our middot each one is given what is desperately needed to complete the soul’s mission.

Torah living is the only means to a strong marital relationship.  The belief that husband and wife are not two completely different people rather one soul split into two separate bodies needs to be deeply implanted in our minds in order to even begin building a healthy home.  This leads to a cease-fire on many levels and a clear pathway to bonding in love and mutual respect.

Let Go ~ Let G-d

May 26, 2015
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Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated and sponsored for the refuah Sheleimah for Elisheva Malka bat Sarah Miriam. May HaKadosh Baruch Hu shower her with a complete healing b’riut hanefesh v’b’riut haguf among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

If you wish to sponsor a daily dose of emuna please write to OritRiter@gmail.com.

‘Let Go and Let G-d’ has become a famed axiom; however we are creatures of control. Therefore it is a great saying but often hard to implement. We get scared and anxious over what ‘nature’ doesn’t readily show as a logical means of solving our troubles. We automatically assume that if Hashem hasn’t placed reasonable means to solve our issues than it simply won’t happen… and then we panic. What to do?

Relax. Hashem has planned our lives to the ‘T’. Strive to reach the unreachable and talk to Hashem. Cry, plead and beseech His endless rachamim. Wherever Hashem creates a void we are meant to fill with His presence. It’s time to humble ourselves and say, “Hashem I really really need You. I can’t go on without You. If You don’t step into my life I will fall apart!”

When we say, “I can’t take it anymore” it is because we truly can’t. Why? Because we aren’t connecting to Hashem’s presence and therefore it is like trying to breathe when there’s not enough oxygen. We need Hashem’s intimate tangible involvement in our lives – we really really need it!

When we go beyond our natural tendencies and reach beyond our logic by relying only on Hashem, He will ‘so to speak’ do the same. Therefore ‘Let Go and Let G-d’ can only occur when aim high, connect above and invite Hashem in.

Divine Assistance

May 21, 2015
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Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of Brana bat Chana. May Hashem send her a complete healing b’riut hanefesh v’b’riut haguf among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

What is Siyatta D’shmaya (Divine assistance)?  We hear the words so often but may not actually appreciate the gift implanted within.  An amazing advantage to receiving Divine assistance is its ability to help us make better decisions with pure clarity and reassurance. Life is adorned with confusing options and we often simply do not know where to turn.  Being gifted with Divine assistance makes one feel as though the road ahead is free of obstacles and they know exactly where to go.

Divine help is readily detected when someone appears to have ‘super-power’ strength to move forward and ignores what others may interpret as hindrances.  The reason this is so is that when a person acts out of holiness and is prepared to put in an extra dose of self-sacrifice, Hashem sees it through.  However, our emuna in Hashem that He will complete the task evokes Hashem’s intimate intervention and helps completes the task at hand.

When we hold on to the idea that we are in control; Hashem so to speak ‘let’s go’ and enables the system of nature to take over.  In other words, when we let go Hashem is let in.  When Hashem comes in, the blessings pour forth leaving us with an undeniable sense of His loving warm care.

Emuna Vision

May 20, 2015
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Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of R’ Shmuel Tzvi ben Rachel Leah who will be undergoing treatment for the next 2 months.  May Hashem ease his pain and shower him with a complete recovery b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

How can Emuna vision change our lives? Here are but three benefits among so many:

1) Emuna living offers clarity, truth and happiness since it means being guided by Hashem’s absolute truth.  The amazing part of living a life of emuna is that we don’t need to learn it; it just needs to be revealed and internalized. It was a Shavuos gift given by Hashem to every Jew.

2) Most people strive for change and growth in one area or another.  Surrendering our wisdom to Divine wisdom (aka living with emuna) offers relatively quick results in those areas we wish to change.  This comes as a result of two important factors.  First there is a great flow of Divine blessing upon anyone who strives to do Hashem’s will.  Secondly because it is an inborn gift and we already have it, it is quicker to access and apply; as opposed to having to go a far distance to learn it.

3) The act of connecting to Hashem and seeing Him in every aspect of our lives enables us to stop the cycle of self-persecution which is all too common in our generation.  We put so much pressure on ourselves to achieve certain goals and things. Yet when we come to realize that Hashem runs the world and the outcome is not dependent on us, we are drawn to tranquility and ease of mind.  Accepting does not necessarily mean we logically understand.  It means responding positively to the events and people in our lives.

Being a Giver

May 19, 2015
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Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of Batsheva Sara bat Rechel Leah. May Hashem send her a complete healing b’riut hanefesh v’b’riut haguf among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

Hashem speaks to us through the circumstances and people in our lives. This means that when we experience an issue with our spouse or children we are being sent a personal message by Hashem on what we need to focus on. Our relationships are our mirror; hence showing us what we need to work on. Particularly that which disturbs us is the area which we need to improve.

The struggle to maintain peace in our home should not be directed towards family members rather should be seen as a larger scale battle to grab hold of our G-dly spirit and follow Hashem’s benevolent ways. We all love validation and most certainly appreciate compliments. Yet if we do not receive them we need to fill that void by reminding ourselves that we are givers because this is what Hashem wants us to do; not in order to receive an outpouring of praises.

Our emotional and spiritual growth is closely linked to overcoming our natural tendency to expect reward for our actions. Torah life teaches us differently; giving is the payback of giving. All is being orchestrated from above and by virtue of working on our emuna we can recognize that we are refining our middot when we become givers instead of takers.

Hashem is ‘planted’ with us

May 18, 2015
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Today, 29 of Iyar is the yahrtzeit of Shmuel HaNavi ztk’l. Shmuel was born to Chana, who had been barren for many years and prayed intensely for a child. Shmuel was raised in an atmosphere of great holiness, and became a leading prophet in Israel. Shmuel’s greatest contribution was in anointing the first king of Israel, Saul, and later anointing King David in his stead. (Some sources list Shmuel’s yahrtzeit as Iyar 28) ~ Excerpt from Aish.com. May he serve as an advocate for Klal Yisrael, Amen.

Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of Mordechai Chaim ben Leah. May Hashem shower him with a complete healing among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

When Yaakov Avinu leaves Beersheba for Haran, he lies down to rest and has a wondrous dream (Bereishis 28:12). He sees a ladder standing firmly on the ground, reaching upward to the heavens. Angels are going up and down, and v’hinei Hashem nitzav alav, “Behold, Hashem is standing above him.”

The Izhbitzer Rebbe ztk’l explained that there are two words that can be used for standing. One is omed, which simply means standing there, and the other is nitzav, which implies being planted in place. A human being is an omed; he always has the choice to stay in one place or move away. A nitzav has no such choice; it is planted in its place, like a stone.

By using the expression of nitzav, Hashem was telling Yaakov a beautiful message. “Dear child, I have no choice but to be with you.” Hashem wanted us to realize that no matter what, no matter where, He would always be planted and bonded with us. Hashem’s connection with us is forever, something that can never be moved nor shifted. We may ascend and descend the ladder to Heaven, sometimes rising and sometimes falling, but Hashem will always be planted above us and within us. No matter where we are, because we are Hashem’s children, He will be with us.

What a powerful message! It gives one a sense of tranquility despite the world’s thunderous storms.

Our Mirror

May 14, 2015
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Very excited to announce the following schedule for ~
‘Turn Around Your Life with Emuna’ ~
Book Launch and Speaking Events, July 2015:

Wednesday, July 8th – Hafrashat Challah – Woodmere, NY
Sunday, July 12th – Chazaq, Brooklyn, Boro Park
Tuesday, July 14th – Chazaq, Kew Garden Hills, Queens
Wednesday & Thursday, July 15th & 16th – Boyton Beach, Florida
Sunday, July 19th – Passaic Park, Neve
Tuesday, July 21st – Woman’s Institute of Torah – Baltimore

More dates to follow ~

If you wish to sponsor any of the above events and/or schedule an amazing event in your community, please email Rochel Weinman, TurnAroundTour2015@gmail.com. Two dates left. Looking forward to seeing you

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Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of Tinok ben Chava. May Hashem shower him with a complete healing among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

We are challenged in our homes with family members who exhibit opposite tendencies and preferences.  What is Hashem telling us by uniting us with others who are so different?  Learn to expand our horizons; see others as a mirror onto us to see what we need to work on in ourselves.  Living with happy spirited people when we have a tendency to be serious deep-thinkers tells us, ‘Be happy. Lighten up!’

Let us see the world as a mirror and see our strengths, potential and weaknesses.  Hashem in His Infinite wisdom plants sensitive children with strong parents, responsible wives with carefree husbands and introverts with extroverts. It is healthy to have a mixture of personalities under one roof; it is not meant to be any other way.  It is only by encountering people who aren’t like us that Hashem teaches us where we need to grow and change; not get annoyed.

It takes courage and perseverance to bridge the gaps in personalities.  We gain true introspection of who we really are when we stand across someone who isn’t our ‘cup of tea.’  Instead of perceiving them as an obstacle let us accept them as hurdles intended to bring out the better good in ourselves.  Our personalities become more rounded and balanced through such interactions.  Most important of all when we perceive life this way; we increase our emuna by accepting that Hashem has a good reason for placing them in our lives.  Our job is to invest the effort in finding out why…

Learning Simcha Through Tehillim

May 13, 2015
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Today’s daily dose of emuna is sponsored and dedicated to Amy Handel ~ “Wishing you the happiest birthday ever to my esteemed teacher and beloved friend” by Veronica.

To sponsor a daily dose of emuna in honor of someone you love, email oritriter@gmail.com.

“Ve’tzaddikim yismechu ya’altzu lifnei Elokim ve’yaseesu b’simcha (“And the righteous will rejoice.  They will exult before Hashem and be filled with happiness”) (Tehillim 68:4)

The Malbim ztk”l expounds on this passuk that the radiance of Hashem is likened to fire and smoke to the wicked, however envelops the righteous in the form of clouds.  This infuses them with endless simcha and bliss for they feel Hashem’s immediate presence with them always.

Those who are loyal and live their lives in accordance to Hashem’s will, develop absolute joy from life.   This comes from their living with emet Eloki (the truth of Hashem) which is aligned with creation.  There is no greater delight than knowing that you are fulfilling your mission in life.

”Yismach Yisrael b’osav, B’nai Tzion yageelu b’malcham (Israel will be happy in its Maker.  The sons of Tzion will rejoice in their King”) (Tehillim 149:2)

Klal Yisrael have remained loyal to Hashem’s mitzvot and in doing so have proclaimed Him as their King.  When we rejoice with Hashem and are content with our lives, it stands as a declaration before the nations of the world.  This brings tremendous nachat to HaKadosh Baruch Hu and in turn Hashem shines His light onto us.

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