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Free… Who’s Free?

April 11, 2016
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Freedom from Mitzrayim refers to psychological freedom. In today’s world many are still enslaved; not physically in shackles and chains but mentally imprisoned. Often people find themselves bonded to certain beliefs and values unable to feel free to realize their greatest potential. Freedom is essentially the ability to live out one’s mission and potential clear of oppressive and dominating outside forces. Mental confusion and emotional instability are two major obstacles that keep us in our own ‘Mitzrayim’. Time and again we become confused why we are here causing frustration and negativity.

To this end we are instructed to remember our exodus from Egypt; since we are constantly in the process of ‘leaving’ Mitzrayim. The universal message embedded in Chag Pesach is that we are always leaving Egypt; fighting off oppressive external forces and seeking inner freedom. The Jewish people must live life knowing that they are not to be afraid or disturbed by life’s challenges and events; deep within they are to remember that Hashem is helping to free them from their emotional instability but reminding them that He is personally involved in their lives.

You may ask, ‘What does freedom feel like?’ Freedom is a sense of empowerment; living with the mindset that the Master of Creation has set no limits on who you can be and how much G-dliness you can achieve. Through witnessing the wondrous miracles of the exodus we were given emuna; a clear awareness that existence is filled with G-dliness and purpose. Our lives are continuously infused with Divine assistance that assists us every step of the way. That is true freedom.

Today’s Daily Dose of Emuna is sponsored L’iluy nishmat Olga Irene bat Shmuel Itzik, Mother to Meira Michal, Grandmother to Baruch Chaim, Yoel Yehuda and Gabrielle.  May her neshama bask in the Divine Radiance among all of the righteous who have departed from this world, Amen.

Day 25 ~ Global Gratitude Revolution

March 24, 2016
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When we express appreciation to our children we give them a sense of significance; this appreciation is one of the cornerstones of connecting to our children. Acceptance of our kids tells them that their being matters. Expressing our appreciation to them says that their doing matters too. Appreciation gives people a sense of significance — feeling that they are valued and that their accomplishments do make a difference to someone.

Parents should show appreciation for their children not only for the sake of their children’s self-esteem, but for improving discipline in the home as well. The more you praise your children for what they are doing right, the less you have to criticize and discipline them for doing something wrong. Many parents struggle with finding the right words to say or knowing what to praise.

It isn’t a matter of not being able to find things to appreciate about your kids; it’s about disciplining yourself to speak up and tell your kids what you see — to give them honest praise for their effort. Some practical examples:

* “Thank you for getting your homework done on time.”
* “I appreciate it when you take your dirty dishes to the sink after we eat.”
* “Thank you for putting the car in the garage for me without being asked.”
* “I appreciate you for spending time with your little sister when you wanted to be out with your friends.”

Honestly accepting them for who they are is necessary to their well-being as it makes them feel secure and comfortable for who they are.

For no particular reason say ‘Thank you Aba, I love You and thank you for giving me life!’

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The Process of Geula

February 24, 2016
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Rav Yechezkel Levenstein ztk’l teaches:
“If this is the era of Mashiach, a lot of effort is required since a person must prepare himself in order to be worthy to merit those days. He must acquire awe and knowledge of Hashem, a taste of spirituality, a connection to good middot. Then he may receive what is to be handed out in the days of Mashiach. Our task is to make ourselves into a proper receptacle.”
Geula is an unfolding of events leading to the revelation of the presence of Hashem. Geula is related to the word “giluy” which means revelation. The Malbim ztk’l teaches when the redemption arrives we will all be in a state of “gila” (happiness) – a place of renewed happiness that we have never experienced before. This joy will come as a result of discovering that Hashem has always been in our lives and that His love is everlasting.
Though Hashem was, is and will always be with us, the difficulty of galut is that we cannot perceive Him readily. We are never alone. Before the geula arrives, we must believe that Hashem is with us He is keeping a detailed account of reward and obligation, but He still loves us. He wants us to turn to Him and bring Him into our exile.

When we experiences challenges – such as marriage problems, illness or problems with children – we need to remind ourselves of His loving Presence. It is vital to avoid blaming others or ourselves for these challenges, since this blame drags us back into Galut. Though something may appear to be going wrong, we must have emuna that it is perfectly in sync with Hashem’s Divine calculations. We are all traveling on a path to geula. Let’s allow the realisation of the future gila we will all experience in geula fuel our current state of simcha now!

Shabbat and The World to Come

February 23, 2016
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All of our week should serve Shabbat. Shabbat should be an intimate meeting with Hashem, without the distraction of material temptation. If we rearrange the letters of Shabbat, we can spell ‘teshev’ (return). Shabbat represents a return to the perfect state – a unity of spirit that replaces the fragmentation of the workweek.

Shabbat is a day where we sit ‘shev’. Whereas the six days are a state of ‘becoming’, Shabbat is a day of ‘being’. The idea of sitting relates to a state of rest – a break in the constant struggle to balance the spiritual and physical aspects of life.

Some of the many similarities between Shabbat and the World to Come include:

• We prepare our bodies physically in a similar way as we do when we depart from this world – washed, nails trimmed and dressed in white.

• We cease to create, build or prepare on Shabbat. In the World to Come, we enjoy the fruits of the lifetime of work in this world.

• The nature of Shabbat is constant and eternal. The way things are at the onset of Shabbat remains the same throughout Shabbat, reflecting the elevated spiritual status of the soul when it has transitioned from this world to the next.

There are also many similarities between erev Shabbat preparations and the preparations here for the World to Come:

• working within a limited time frame to avoid wasting time,
• constantly building and planning and preparing,
• focusing our activities and attention towards a future-oriented-goal

Shabbat enables our Divine soul to be freed from its exile to live in total connection to Hashem. The Arizal teaches that on Shabbat we gain a sense of unity from receiving our additional soul. Though Adam HaRishon was driven out of Gan Eden, a part of his soul remained there. On Shabbat, Hashem releases that part of his neshama and gives it back to man. Thus, on Shabbat we are essentially given the opportunity to return to Gan Eden.

Pain, Doubt & Emuna

February 22, 2016
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The Chofetz Chaim ztk’l teaches that we are brought down into this world for the sole purpose of rectifying the world through recognition and acceptance of Hashem as the Creator. It is called a clarity of ’Oneness.’ Emuna enables us to dismiss all doubts about Hashem’s existence and the fact that everything that happens to us is for a reason and is for our best.

We are instructed to serve Hashem out of emuna and bitachon – clear knowledge that Hashem is always with us and steadfast trust that helps us act on that security. Doubts are insidious and often interrupt emuna growth. They may arise out of uncertainty over Hashem’s ability to help, or fear of something we believe is greater and more powerful than Hashem.

Emuna empowers us to hope and trust in Hashem when beset with misfortune. Though we may lack understanding of why we suffer, pain is not ‘senseless’.  Emuna enables us to accept the pain and know intrinsically that somehow, in some way our pain is necessary for our spiritual repair and growth. This awareness and inner faith should help steer us away from assessing our difficulties and judging whether they are good or bad.

One reason why difficulties arise is to remind us of Hashem’s presence and motivate us to change our ways. We should constantly view ourselves and our world as transient, as if we are moving to another home. Our reality is constantly changing and helping us to move forward. When you move house, your current home appears on the surface to be in utter chaos, confused and disorganized. However, we can view change as stressful, or we can view it as an exciting opportunity. We shouldn’t fall apart because of this move. Don’t worry about putting things in order or making sense out of the mess.

The apparent chaos signifies that Hashem changing the world for the better. We can view the change as positive and exciting and adventurous. We are not stagnating but growing. We need to be ready with our packed belongings (mitzvot). In this world we pack – we do. Only in the next world we sit – we have.

Suffering Birth Pangs

February 17, 2016
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When a Jew leaves this world and fails to repair a transgression via teshuva or yissurim (difficulties, hardships and challenges of life), their sin weighs down the whole of the Klal (community). The Klal then have to rectify the damage caused by that sin. Hashem created this world so it ‘naturally’ continues to perfect itself until the ultimate perfection of Mashiach.

The world must experience ‘birth pangs’ before the coming of Mashiach in order to lessen the burden of these unrepaired sins of the Klal. The entire nation must be cleansed of transgressions before the geula. This process of rectification perfects Jewish souls and brings us closer to Mashiach.

The Vilna HaGaon ztk’l teaches that if it were not for yissurim, we would not be able to stand in the Next World. Our merits and misdeeds are weighed. And our merits are lightened since they are often done with a lack of sincerity and joy. In contrast, our misdeeds are heavy since often they are committed with desire and excitement.

The word yissurim is derived from the word ‘mussar’ (rebuke). Discomfort, challenges and hardships are ‘wake-up’ calls to convey the message that we are currently ‘traveling down the wrong path’. Such wake-up calls are actually a Divine chesed, enabling us the opportunity to pay merely pennies on a one million dollar debt. Though each nisayon hurts, we can soften the impact by reminding ourselves that Hashem sends us these challenges to enable us to ‘pay down our debt’ and reach perfection.

The Zohar teaches that we see through the pupil, the black part of our eye. This represents the idea that we ‘see’ and learn through the dark times in life. When he was challenged by his suffering, Iyov asked Hashem ‘Why?’ Hashem replied, “Where were you when I created the world?” Iyov then realized the immeasurable distance between creature and the Creator.

Life is a series of detailed events chained together to form history. A lifetime of 120 years is minuscule compared to eternity. We are not privy to see the whole piece of jewelry. Only when we have reached the end of the chain of events will we be granted the understanding and knowledge of why things happened the way they did.

Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of Rivka bat Chaya, a Mother of 3 little kids with stage 4 breast cancer.  Hashem Yirachem, Maleh Rachamim, please may Rivka bat Chaya among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering merit a complete healing b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

 

 

Heels of the Mashiach

February 16, 2016
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The Torah refers to the End of Days Ikveh d’Meshicha, the heels of the Mashiach. The AriZal points out that a heel is a seemingly unimportant part of the body that does not appear to contribute to our higher spiritual or intellectual faculties. The whole body steps on it and it steps on dirt. Nevertheless, the heel is essential since all of our body relies on it and stands on it.

Past generations laid down the groundwork for the upcoming redemption. Our generation is considered to represent the heel of the Mashiach. Our job is to complete the process of preparation for redemption, tying the last loose ends together in order to usher in the Mashiach, B’H.  The Shomer Emunim ztk’l teaches that this generation has the opportunity to rectify all past misdeeds of all of past lives since the beginning of time. As it is always darkest before the dawn, our generation is faced with intense nisyonot and temptations.  Yet, by overcoming such challenges we will be able to uplift all things past and welcome the redemption.

There is an entire Divine master plan which we are not privy to see. In our finiteness as humans we see only countless points and elements with no common ground. However, each separate minute element is vital to the overall picture. Picture an ant working tirelessly to move a grain of dirt in front of her so she can move forward. Her vision is blocked from what lies a foot in front of her. Her load is miniscule compared to the mound of earth piled around a tree stump just a few feet in front of her. And she cannot even fathom the fact that there lies a forest 50 feet ahead of her. She sees and focuses only that which is in front of her. Yet, overcoming her individual challenge is crucial to enabling her to reach that forest along with the other ants.

We may not see the ‘big picture’. Yet, we can be rest assured that there is something bigger and greater out there. We must focus on our individual challenges and victories, trusting that by completing our unique tikkun we are moving towards our final destination. Let’s trust the Divine process. Let’s patiently complete our own tikkun, overcoming our personal nisyonot in order to help usher the geula as it unfolds before our very own eyes.

Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of Sarah bat Dina a soon-to-be-Kallah who was seriously injured in this weeks bus accident in Yerushalayim.  May Hashem envelop her with a complete healing among all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen.

 

 

The Ultimate Heavenly Purpose for Heavenly Decrees

February 15, 2016
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There is a beautiful passuk in Sefer BaMidbar “…ka’ashear yisah ha’oman et hayonek (… carry them in your bosom as the nurse carries the suckling…) (see Parshat Behaalotecha (11:12).” This verse describes the unwavering security and satisfaction a baby experiences after nursing. The baby is not concerned about her next meal, but content and dependent on her mother for all her needs.

We often utter the words ‘End of Days’ casually, without contemplating their true meaning. The Chofetz Chaim ztk’l teaches that the generation that will greet Mashiach (our generation B”H!) will be required to constantly examine their emuna. Like a person constantly checking his pockets to reassure himself that his precious savings are still safely ensconced there, so too we need to continuously pay attention to and confirm our levels of emuna.

The Navi Zecharia teaches that Hashem rejoices in every bit of our avoda we perform to strengthen our emuna.Our reward in this world will be the blissful feeling of security and satisfaction similar to that experienced by a nursing baby. And in the next World we will all merit to see the positive effect of every emuna-strengthening act and thought.

For many of us the “End of Days” represents a time of harsh Divine decrees. Heavenly prosecutors will attempt to force us to reach a point of teshuva and bring justice for transgressions committed. Many of us are currently confronting surprisingly harsh challenges and nisayonot. Though these penalties may seem cruel or unjust, we must remember that we are not privy to Divine calculations.

We do not have the ability to understand the inner workings of the Divine machine the direction that the bolts and nuts turn or the purpose behind each tiny nail and screw. Thus, it is our emuna that will buoy us to believe that there is purpose to every part, twist and turn, of the Divine machine of life and that it is all for our ultimate best.

Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of all those injured in yesterday’s horrific bus accident in Israel and l’havdil l’iluy nishmat the precious souls who passed away.  May Hashem envelop us with extra doses of emuna through these difficult times where judgment is tightly stretched over the Klal and may we unite with one another in simchas only, Amen.

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Anger – Part III

February 10, 2016
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I once overheard a beautiful story about anger:

A Tzaddik once sat on a river bank surrounded by his disciples. As they looked around them, they spotted a group of family members shouting at one another.  The Tzaddik turned to his students and asked, “Why do people shout at each other in anger?”

The students thought for a while. One of them answered, “Because we lose our calm.”

“But why should you shout when the other person is right next to you? You can tell him what you have to say in a soft manner” said the Tzaddik.

The students offered other answers. The Tzaddik was not satisfied. Finally, he explained, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are distant. To overcome that distance, they must shout to be able to hear one another. In contrast, what happens when two people are in love? They talk softly because their hearts are very close. The distance is either non-existent or small.” The Tzaddik continued, “When they love each other more, what happens? They do not even need to speak, only whisper. Finally when they grow even closer to one another they do not even need to whisper, they only need to look at each other and know what the other is saying. That is how close two people in love are.”

He looked at the students and said, “So when you argue, do not let your hearts grow apart. Do not say words that create a gap. Otherwise there may come a day when the distance is so great you will find yourself screaming to the one who is right next to you and not sense that he is near.”

Today’s daily dose of emuna is dedicated l’iluy nishmat Aharon Hakohen ben Perel. May his neshama bask in the Divine radiance among all of righteous who have departed from this world, Amen.

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