BS’D
Prayers for Shalom bayit should be included in all of our daily tefillot and ‘talks’ with Hashem. Undoubtedly marriages experience ups and downs however a vital key to peace is when the wife and husband individually invest time and effort on refining their personal middot.
Feeling fulfilled as an individual enables us to unite with our spouse in a more positive way. The AriZal teaches that our spouse is our tikkun; the way to repair a spiritual fault we hold within our own self.
As Rav Ezriel Tauber shlit”a so eloquently describes marriage, ‘You can’t find peace with your other half if you do not have peace with your first half (meaning within you)’. Hashem knows what is best and sets before us that which we need for our eternal benefit. We are here to spiritually grow and mend our aching nefesh.
Trust Hashem’s plan and rely on His infinite wisdom; we are working for our soul’s eternal good. However we cannot achieve anything on our own and should beseech Hashem’s guidance each and every day for ultimate success in marriage and all of our endeavors.
